May 23, 2013
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A Word of Advice for Young People
Disclaimer: I consider myself a young person too . . . so I will gladly apply this advice to myself as well.
1. Facebook. If you wouldn't say it or do it in front of your Mama, it doesn't belong on Facebook. Chances are, someday, you'll want a job that is prestigious enough to have a base pay that gets you out of your parent's household. Any job like that is likely to check out your Facebook profile. Don't use profanity, display pictures of yourself scantily clad, post videos of yourself a drunken mess, or do anything else your sweetest, most precious relative would be offended by.
2. Work your way up. When you get a job out there in the big bad world, don't expect to start out at the top. You can't/won't/shouldn't be making in pay what everyone else who has been there for ages is making. They started at the bottom. Whether you've got a college diploma in your hand or not, you're new. Go in knowing that all the people who succeed in life work really hard to get there. They don't assume they are entitled to what other people have worked for.
3. Learn to Forgive. People are not perfect. You are not perfect. Relationships that you cherish will require your ability to forgive mistakes and move forward. You don't have to stay around people who are bad for you, but holding a grudge in your heart harms no one but yourself. It hinders your ability to love and forgive and accept other people in the future.
4. If a girl or guy is not good enough to be the mother/father of your future child, you probably shouldn't sleep with them. I think this is self-explanatory.
5. Learn to spell, or use programs with a spell checking feature. If I'm looking at your resume and you don't know the difference between your and you're, or to, too and two, I'm mentally judging your ability to do the job.
6. Laugh at yourself. No one else will provide you with as much entertainment. It improves your coping skills, and makes you more likable.
7. Don't expect more from other people than you are willing to give of yourself.
Comments (26)
Love your 4 5 6 7
great advice!
This is such good advice.
YES! great advise.
amen especially on #3!
If a girl or guy is not good enough to be the mother/father of your future child, you probably shouldn't sleep with them.
I like that.
@aseriesoffortunateevents - Excellent post. ICAM! I've unsubscribed and defriended a few high school classmates on my end of stalkbook. The fact, that we're in our 30's, while they're still acting like they're teenagers and in their early 20's, really started to piss me off. By me trimming the fat on my end, I've started to feel a lot better because I realized how shallow, selfish, judgmental, and immature some of these people were and still are. I was hoping that some changed for the better but they actually got worse with age and some of these people have kids to raise. Anyway, what you said has a lot of truth to it. There's nothing wrong with being young at heart, but it's another to always act like a dumb ass, when it's unwarranted.
good points to think about
I love the 2nd one, but disagree with the 4th one. Not everyone would be able to invest, financially and physically to be capable of having children. Especially since the generation of people are moving out and getting married later on. Relationships are taking forms in different shapes same-sex, common-law etc.
I agree with number 5 but you have to consider, English may not be someone's first language but experience and skills are universal.
Man...this is what I hate...it's like Facebook is the new background check material. I use my facebook as comedic relief and for my bluntness and honesty. My facebook will not show anything but my leisure side. Oh well...I guess I should clean up my facebook of all its cat pictures and what not so I can get a job in a few years...
@sourgirl01 - as for #4, I stand firm. Sex shouldn't be flippant and every single person regardless off marital status or orientation deserves to be with someone who is worthy to share it with them. If you are of child bearing age and ability, then your decisions should be based on whether you are prepared to handle the potential consequences rather than on instant gratification.
As far as #5, I'm mostly referring to native speakers. When I'm looking at the resume of a non-native speaker that is different. The people I'm referring to in this post generally have grown up speaking English and are just flippant with how they present themselves.
@o3o_JennyBear_o3o - I get that! Some people forget though, that the Internet is available for everyone and if it's not something you'd want everyone to see, you should change your privacy settings or not post it. Every generation goes through a wild partying phase. They just don't usually document it for all the world to see, ha!
@aSeriesofFortunateEvents - I have my privacy settings pretty high. But that doesn't stop companies from buying your information from facebook or other sources to see what kind of person you are. I think facebook can correctly portray some people, but for people like me, all you'll get is my comedic/humor side that I don't express to society because not everyone gets the humor, you know? Other times it's to release my emotions of tough things I'm dealing with in life. But facebook for me, it keeps my leisure side at bay from my professonial work ethic in person.
I disagree with 1 and 4, though I see your point about 1. Most people I
know treat facebook as a stupid place to say silly stuff. It's a good
idea to make it visible to only friends though, so I guess I pretty much
agree.
As for 4, that's sort of a personal moral stance. I agree
with it myself, but can't tell other people that's how they should live
their lives.
I'm definitely with you on the others though.
Great points. I would expand #1 to say when it comes to "anything" done and submitted on the net (email, blogs, texts, pictures, etc...)in your name, if one can't handle it appearing in the front of their parents or the front page of a newspaper, think twice and then think again before hitting the send button. A mistake can be temporary, but the internet is forever.
I don't post anything on Facebook I wouldn't be comfortable with my grandparents knowing or seeing. Some people just don't see it that way, though. If I'm gonna be a drunken mess, I'd rather my grandparents not know about it. Ha.
@aSeriesofFortunateEvents - sex shouldn't be flippant it is associated with love,but love isn't based on procreation.
such as same sex marriages.I get that it should be with someone who is deserving, but with no relation to whether they're good enough to be the mother/father of your future child.
Absolutely! Couldn't have said it better myself!
Same with there, they're and their. I hate when people mess that up. Pet peeve!
What do you do for a living?
@SlickRick297 - I'm the director of an emergency shelter for domestic violence victims and rape crisis center.
GREAT post and advice.
Great post! I agree on all points, and admire your bravery to state your convictions even when they are not popular!
#5 - wow. yes, please! that is one of my worst pet peeves!
Very helpful advice
Lol @ #1. My Aunt deleted me because she was offended by the shit I posted, so I invited her to a threesome with my girlfriend. I'm a fucking people pleaser.
This link is for you Beth. Please watch it. My daughter and you probably fit this role perfectly.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqvmmb8TQR0&feature=youtu.be
@ZSA_MD - so funny! And so true!